All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen and, I must say that they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what is a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for the right girl for you.
You must be patient before all else. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and amiable until she feels at ease talking with you online. Don’t attempt to hurry her into meeting you one on one. She will only think that you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.
Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and then there you are back at square one.
A picture certainly is worth a thousand words. So an idea would be to post a few pictures of yourself doing your daily activities and make them full body, not just of your head. After all. if you were dating a girl in the real world she would not just see your head, would she?
Once the discussion has been started meeting in the flesh for the first time, suggest that you should meet in a very public place, during the daytime and that she might bring a friend with her, if she wants to.
When all is said and done, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. You have already told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. Then only thing left to do is to is make her feel safe meeting you!